ITS BETTER TO BURN THEN TO FADE AWAY

KURT COBAIN(1967-1994)

The day of 5th April 1994,a man shot himself with a shotgun in the greenhouse area of his house.That man was Kurt Cobain.I know not how many of you know about Cobain but he was the lead singer of the rock band which we all know as NIRVANA.He left a suicide note which had a line
"ITS BETTER TO BURN THEN TO FADE AWAY"
The rest of the post is not about the person but about the inhumane act that he commited.I picked up the newspaper one morning and the last column of the front page carried a story which almost shocked me.It was about the suicide of a prominent t.v actress who commited suicide because she couldn't get to terms with her lover.I was numb for a few seconds as my intellect failed to understand the depth of plight of the lady for it was abusing the lack of courage in a person whom thousands love and hundreads idealize.

Acknowledgement is a state which a human always strives for.Acknowledgement to a person is what steam is to preassure cooker,what petrol is to car and what love is to life.A person looses the intent for living and the desire to achieve when he finds himself in a position of not being acknowledged by people whom he wants acknowledgement from.The moment this occurs depression sets in.Be it a break-up between a girlfreind and a boyfreind or be it the non satisfaction of parents even when thier child did his/her best,the only result of it is profound sadness and a state of distress.Some of us grow impulsive and some of us like to isolate ourselves from the world when such occasions arise .But most of us get over it .My mom recites a maxim to me whenever I am sad.She says " Sadness and Happiness are two shades of life.And as night follows day and day follows night they keep following each other".I am quite sure that all of us know it by now but the question is how much do we realize it.The times when we are sad we dont make efforts to understand and see the better side of it,rather we keep on cribbing about the past.Understandably,this is what human nature is about but does that mean that we should ever even try to commit a suicide.

Our lives are not our lives because we are bound to people.People who are affected when we are sad or when we are happy and people who will be affected because of our absence.We belong to the land where philianthropists like Karna were born.How can we be so selfish to all the people who love us.And even if for a moment I stop to think about the people around me ,then also how does a suicide justify me as a person.How can a person be defeated by himself.

A very common phenomena that i have noticed is that we people are too strict with ourselves.We dont want to accept defeat and keep moving towards our destinies rather we stop and start to crib about what has went wrong.We have become more ruthless to ourselves than to our enemies.People can be heard saying baffling phrases like, i want to be a strong individual.I dont want any emotions for anyone.I want to be alone".Usually this is the state after a major setback but what I ask is that why cant we let the defeat affect us in a positive manner?Why cant we let emotions rule over us and let them affect us in the way they want to?Why cant we be calm and think rationally?

At this point I am forced to think and reason out the factors that have led to the change in our mental attitude when we meet a failure.First and foremost the overhyped and elusive peer preassure comes to my mind.Its quite ture that peer preassure is a lot in our lives.Its a part of life that we live with .Be it our professional life or our personal we dont want to lag behind our colleagues and friends or else they will banter us.We dont want to be called loosers.I ask here just a small question that if the people who ridicule me if i dont have the same salary as them or if I cant be comfortable with a certain section of people can be my true friends?The other factor is obviously not being able to acheive a certain degree of achievement which we had strived for.Here again i want to just shed some light on the same point which is the soul of this post that why cant we see our failures as a step closer to our destinies?There can be some other factors too but no matter what factor comes to my mind I can never reason out the code of conduct adopted by so many people.

How can a bullet,a pill or a rope be a solution to the problem which has orignated in our minds?How can we possibly sweep the problem under the carpet rather then facing the adverse circumstances?These questions have baffled me and made me ponder over them on and off and today I find it safe enough to say that no matter the degree of adversity ,every individual has born with a soul which can see him/her through the worst of times.The only effort required by us is to enlighten ourselves spiritually and realise the deep meaning of life which lies much more in acheivement.Which lies in the realms of Karma and not the result,which deals with the effort to transform this earth into the Kingdom Of Heaven.

To end this post i will like to quote a sentence.The sentence was entreched on the cieling of a blacksmiths workshop who ended up saving hundreads and thousands of life which hadnt been possible if he had commited suicide after his wife's death.The person was Baliean .

WHAT MAN IS A MAN WHO DOESNT LEAVE THIS EARTH A BETTER PLACE

and for sure leaving this world by killing oneself is not making this world a better place.
Want to keep on writing but i guess i will take a break now and maybe I will add a few things later.